I mean look at softball, some players or coaches think of it as a game 2 be tough, hard, mean, competitive, rough, winners, haters. Well it isn't, its about having fun, doing wat u like. Its about being confident,having motivation, being inspiring, having passion, and lots more. So have fun with wat u doing,like softball, well u do got to be competitive if u look at it at another way, well dat ain't the point, hav fun with wat u doing and live it.
As you say, softball is meant to be fun. When you lose sight of that, there is no sense continuing to play, because it becomes a job. That makes no sense at all. Keep playing the game because you enjoy it. If you enjoy something, you will always put in the extra effort to excel.