I believe coaches should focus on each player differently. Get to know the the player and treat them as your daughter, with lots of love. Most players are not going to become the next Jennie Finch the softball player, but with a solid relationship, player can become Jennie Finch the strong leader and just great person.
Attempt to teach:
How to deal with good and bad emotions Building relationships and respecting others Setting and achieving goals It is not all about you!